What Would You Do?

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“I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being–neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there’s no question of integration or intermarriage. It’s just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.” ~ Malcolm X

I will like to stir up a little conversation here. In North America and other industrial countries, the population is becoming more diverse and people are learning about cultures and countries that they would probably not have the opportunity to come in contact with.

My friend thinks she is going to rot in hell. She is Christian but her boyfriend is Muslim. So based on her upbringing, she has been taught to not mix with the “unbelievers”; hence non-Christians. She is working toward marriage with this man. And they have been together for a long time. A long, long, long, long, long, time. I guess you got the point.

I encouraged her that as long as it is pure love, that God will be smiling. Besides, there are a lot of “Christian marriages” that ends up in shambles.

My thought on this issue is: Love is the only religion. Give love, share love, be love. As long as she has good intentions, as long as she is growing to be the greatest version of herself, as long as her dreams are supported, as long as there is peace of mind, as long as transparency and trust are there, as long as communication spans across the border; let it be.

No one is your God. If your intuition (the God in you), speaks pure love and peace of mind. Then it is yours. You are worthy of a passionate relationship. Don’t let fear hold you back. Do what makes you happy and you need no one’s permission.

And in terms of Inter-faith relationships, make it work. Learn about each other’s beliefs and practices. Be open minded and show respect.

Now I’ll give the mic to you now. Yes, you. What’s your say on this?




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6 thoughts on “What Would You Do?

  1. We all have the right to choose our religion. All men are made equal. Regarding this matter, it is also one of my concerns, as I have a different religion (we’re Christians too, but of different denomination and set of beliefs).
    I ‘preferred’ choosing someone of the same religion as mine, but we cannot simply control our emotions, and I myself always fall for someone that is of different religion. But I don’t want to persuade other people to change their religion for me. As I say, we all have our right to choose. Maybe it’s just that it’s quite inconvenient for me to have a partner that has a different set of beliefs. So until I am really sure that we can both accept each other’s beliefs and traditions, especially respect for one’s religion, then maybe that’s the time I can say “I do.”

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    1. Hi Yankydoodledoo. Also will like to comment on your name choice. Thumbs up.
      I will like to mention that religion is one of the many factors that determine if you want to be with someone. There are questions like, where will you like to settle down? How many kids will you like to have? Do you want kids? What are your long term goals? and the lists goes on.
      My point is that, if you have a passionate relationship with someone, and there is that transparency present, won’t you rather want to be with someone that you can trust that to find someone based on your faith.
      Additionally, be honest with yourself, if you know deep down in your heart that you can live without your significant other and go back to dating. Then walk away. Don’t waste either of anyone’s time. And it should be work from both partners, both people will be working towards accommodating each other’s differences.
      Marriage is all about compromise, if you guys are not effective in making out resolutions on issues, then consider if you guys want to be with each other.
      In summary, don’t discredit an individual based on their religion. It doesn’t tell them who they are, your religion is just your belief system. It is your actions that tell people who you are.

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      1. I definitely agree. Marriage is not something you can enter into then go out if you don’t want it anymore. Time is of essence, you’re right about that. If one is not willing to compromise, then maybe it’s time to reconsider. Religion is not something we use to judge people, neither do color, nor culture, nor anything else. But if one can’t handle the differences, then it’s time for both to move on, and find someone you can accept and love for who they are, and of course, willing to compromise.

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